Some time ago, I returned to my hometown and saw a mother and baby products store in the town open, buying diapers to send inflatable tumblers. Inflatable tumblers are cute, children like to play, adults are also happy to buy more diapers, and get an inflatable tumbler for children to play with. A familiar mother said that her children like to play inflatable tumblers the most, especially when they are angry, they just run to the side and fight the tumbler for a while to vent, I don’t need to coax him. I listened to the secret smack, no wonder her 3-year-old child is so violent, one is unhappy to hit someone.
Mothers think that kicking a tumbler when their children are angry is a vent, the same as adults practice boxing and punching sandbags when they are in a bad mood, but in fact, this so-called venting method does not help much to vent children’s bad emotions, on the contrary, it will make children more irritable, irritable, and extremely aggressive.
The child is still young, and his cognition of the outside world and control of emotions are still lacking. If parents encourage their children to vent their bad emotions by kicking and hitting inflatable tumblers, over time, the child will subconsciously think that he is right and should do this when he is angry. When waiting for parents to find out that something is wrong, the child’s irritable personality has probably taken shape, and it is very difficult for parents to change their child’s personality.
So, when the child is angry, what should parents do to really benefit the child?
1. Use behavior cards skillfully to calm children down quickly. Make some behavior cards, each card has a thing that children usually like to do or some relaxing behavior, such as jumping, breathing deeply, listening to music, playing with pets, etc. Show your child when he is angry and guide him to calm down as shown on the card.
2. Guide children to say things that make them unhappy. When children are angry when they encounter unhappy things, parents should not rush to reprimand their children, which will only make the child more emotional. Parents try to get the child to tell the reason for the anger, and the illness makes the child understand whether he is wrong and should not lose his temper.
3. Let the child vent and do the same thing with him. I know a child who likes to yell when he is angry, and he is bruised and sweaty. His parents tried their best to calm him down, but to no avail. Later, when he yelled again, his mother simply shouted with him, he was startled, sobbed and asked his mother why he was shouting, and his mother said that because you were yelling, I was angry, so I followed suit. He looked down and thought for a while, stopped shouting, but told his mother why he was angry. Later, when he lost his temper and yelled, his mother would learn from him, and after a few times, he completely changed this bad problem.